Welcome to Rudan Thursdays where we talk about…things! Anything from books and movies, to blog posts and authors, to food and drink.
Today, let’s flip Fear the finger one final time.
As I’m sure you’ve guessed, Bob Mayer is my go-to guy when I feel Fear’s creepy, crawly fingers inching up my spine. On the
impossible off-chance you’ve not heard of Mr. Mayer, read on my friends, and you won’t be able to Google him fast enough. 😛
Bob says that fear is, “…a feeling of alarm or disquiet caused by the expectation of danger, pain, or the like.” The key word being, of course, ‘expectation.’ We expect or imagine all of these negative or horrible things happening, and most of the time it’s probably just our overactive imaginations at work.
Yet, we cling to these fears. Why? Think back to the last fear you can remember. Did what you imagine happening actually happen? Chances are, no. And most of the time, those scary situations never arise.
What we need to do, is hike up our big girl/boy pants and get some Courage (yeah, with a capital “C”). Fear, with a few exceptions, is a normal, healthy emotion. It’s what we do with that fear that’s really important. Do we cling to it, desperate to try to stop whatever evil is heading our way, or do we…
Suck. It. Up.
Bob says that courage is, “the state or quality of mind or spirit that enables one to face danger with self-possession, confidence, and resolution. It is the ability to do something that frightens one. Courage is strength in the face of pain or grief.”
How many times have you faced a fear, realized it wasn’t as bad as you thought it was going to be, felt a little foolish for being afraid in the first place, and then felt proud of yourself for being brave enough to work past it? Did you feel just a little stronger…a little more self-confident?
Having courage in the face of fear is not easy. It’s quite difficult. But…the rewards are endless. Not only will your children stop making fun of you and stop walking in the other direction when you arrive to pick them up from school…oh, wait, that’s me.
Where was I?
Oh Yeah. You’ll feel GOOD about yourself and when you feel good about yourself you’ll have a more positive outlook. And just like we chatted about last time, when your outlook becomes more positive, everything and (mostly) everyone around you changes for the better. (Eh, if they don’t change, than the problem ain’t you, my friend)
And, Change. Is. Good!
So talk to me. What was the last fear you overcame? What is that niggling fear that sits on the back of your neck whispering in your ear? Reach out, you never know who will be there to grab your hand and help you through.